Guys, this post is for you!
Please keep in mind that I am not in any way attempting to disparage men in this post. On the contrary, I am advising and you have the right to agree or disagree
Amma ba3d ..
I’m in love. I’m in love with not being in love – so in love that I’m considering asexuality. Since the relationship hype started among Saudi females, I’ve been the target for constant complaining and nagging to from my friends. Even married women think I would be some sort of help. I don’t mind it really – it just gets so redundant. ALL. THE. TIME.
It doesn’t matter if they’ve just started dating or have been married for awhile, they tend to have the same problems. It’s always the men who don’t understand, and although it is not entirely true, it was my inspiration for this post.
Men, I know that you could care less about her problems as long as things go back to normal. I’ve even got proof!
If a man hears much that a woman says, she is not beautiful.
Haskins is the spokesperson for all men and therefore all words that come out of his mouth are true
Don’t worry though, that’s great that you want to end a conflict fast and easy, just please stop thinking like a guy and that will get you back to home base. To get you started, I have thought about some pointers to help you should you encounter a rough patch with your lady.
The problems in relationships tend to show the same trend. It’s usually the woman wanting extra attention from her man, but he’s too busy at work or watching soccer games or out with his friends. Obviously, she doesn’t tell him about her wants because it’s equivalent to trying to explain a joke after it’s told -not so funny anymore. She expects him to take a hint. He, however, remains clueless. Meanwhile, the woman gets to the point where she is ready to explode.
She starts ignoring him, going out with her friends, ignoring his calls. Then he asks her what’s wrong. She tries to tell him, then he starts to think she’s childish for ignoring him over something stupid ( I feel you girls).
Once they start a fight it turns disastrous because both of them think the other doesn’t understand, when really the misunderstanding comes from both partners.
Men, I want you to understand why your woman is angry when you think you’ve done nothing wrong. Here’s an example:
“W calls M when he’s at work. W: “Hey! how are you?”. M: “Hey! I’m so busy, the boss just announced that we have to present our business proposals and blah blah blah”. W is thinking, He used to ask about me. Is he going to say I miss you? Or I wish I was with you? hmm i’ll wait and see. M is thinking, she called to find out about me and I’m telling her. At the end of the call, M: “Anyways sweety I got to go I have too much work and no time to speak”. W: “Hmm well you found time to complain about work”. M: “what?”. W: “nothing”. M: “are you mad?”. W: “No, I gotta go”. M : “OK”. Click.
Oh believe me she’s pissed! She’s thinking about revenge while you go about your day thinking she isn’t mad. Men, you just got yourself a Go to jail card. In order to get out you need to pay your dues. Please don’t think about doing this your way – it won’t get you anywhere.
Women love to hear, “I was a jerk and I apologize.” That will win you a HUGE get out of jail card! Saying it’s your fault basically gets you out of any fight. Keep it in mind.
Call her, text her, or email her at least once a day. Yes once a day even if you’ve been married for a while. Say, “I can’t wait to see you!”, “I miss you today more than ever“, “Insert something cute here“. Being in a relationship is a full time job, and you need to score points in order to get promotions. If you choose not to, then it will stir up a fight.
Which brings me to anger management. A lot of men lose their temper easily in fights (you know who you are). They start to say things they will regret. A certain friend of mine is married to a guy who used to be unable to control his outrages. It took a threat to leave him to get his act together. Since then, he has re-conditioned himself to know when to stop, breath, step out of the room, then come back when calm so they could start discussing their problem. If you have the same problem, it is OK to stop yourself and let your partner know that you need to calm yourself down (this advise should be considered from both sexes). Now, that doesn’t mean saying:
Get away from me. I need to calm myself down. You are making me really angry and I might say something that will hurt you.
Um, that will just make you look like a douchebag
. So, try a different approach. Try to be sweet when you are mad. OK I’m pushing. How about trying this:
I am really mad at this point, so I need to step out for a little while to calm myself. If I stay here I know I will say something I will regret.
She, my friend, will let you go. She will also respect you more.
Trust me guys – women find compassion, sweet-talk, charm, positive attitudes, respect and so forth much sexier and attractive than just the looks. Unlike you however (yeah, I went there
).
I won’t sit here much longer and ramble about relationships. I just wanted to give you a little bit of help on how to keep you and your lady happy
. If you read this and end up forgetting everything I’ve said, please try to remember that women are simple. We don’t need a Fendi bag and Prada shoes to make us happy. Compliments, flirts and being sweet in general will score you high points.
Adios!